Comments on: Accepting the plea in court

By: LTDAN

LTDAN — Wed, 07 Apr 2010 16:13:19 +0000

It is amazing that so many of our experiences are so similar even though we live in different States. I wanted to mention that my day in court went like this when I had to accept the plea agreement. First of all, my supposed victim was my 15 year old daughter who wasn’t even the accuser, the State was.

Anyway, it was the DA, my attorney and the Judge. What I felt curious about was that I felt like I was being bullied into something. The plea agreement seemed a good deal. I had the have thoughts like you did regarding the pros and cons of this deal. What stuck in my throat was the idea that I had not assaulted anyone sexual in any way, and if tickling your own child is an assault then I am truly surprised. I understand the difference between grooming and actual assault, but to accuse someone on presumption, assumption or the potential of future assault in ridiculous.

Anyway, when it was time to have the Judge explain to me what I was agreeing to he repeated himself two, three, even four times, which I round odd. He was asking me if I really was sure I wanted to do this. I was all choked up and started to cry, even though the deal was good. It was a deferred sentence with a misdemeanor attached to it (little did I know there was of course more to it that would affect my life in the future). I tried to answer the Judge but kept on choking up with tears forcing their way out from my eyes. The reason for my hesitation was because I felt like, by accepting the plea agreement, I would be lying to the Judge. I felt I was lying to the Judge, like lying to your Mom, that I agreed that I committed sexual assault on my 15 year old. I wasn’t in denial or needed to protect anything in my life at that time. It just was a flat out lie to the Judge when I accepted the plea agreement. It has been 12 years now, and I still have a hard time thinking about this.

By: dad

dad — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 02:55:05 +0000

@Hurting Dad – Just spent a few minutes looking over your site…wow. Bookmarked it so I can read more tomorrow. I also added your site to my blogroll. It’s awesome that you’ve gotten your family back and that you have such a great relationship with your kids again. So sad though you lost all those years.

By: Hurting Dad

Hurting Dad — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 02:30:22 +0000

I sure would like to hear from others who are in my shoes. email me at FixMyHome@aol.com if you want.

By: Hurting Dad

Hurting Dad — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 02:27:38 +0000

Wow…. it was great to read this. I am not the only one. Check out my site at http://www.IWantMyDad.com. Take a good reading of the deposition that was taken by Dr. Myra Burt, the one who was hired by my wife to turn in a molesting charge, while I was going through divorce/child custody hearings. After getting all this evidence my attorneys abandoned me when I ran out of funds. The public defender was more afraid of a court room than me. It was a plea or 6 years in prison. Please read this some body and let me know if I am sane or not. I have never touched my daughter inappropriately in any way what so ever. Last year when I visited my 17 yr old daughter………… she hugs me and says “Dad I know you never touched me in a bad way, I’ve known all along it has been a lie. But if I say something I’m afraid my MOM could go to jail for making it up.”

By: dad

dad — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 03:14:15 +0000

Wow fireman, that’s tough. I have to be honest though, I think this kind of thing happens far too often. I’m pretty convinced that’s what happened to me too, I just can’t figure out for the life of me why my accusers would want to hurt me. I can’t believe that over a simple A&B they took your job and license. Can they really do that?? Did you try calling the labor board or civil liberties? Definitely sounds like we walked in each others shoes. I agree, there are no winners and peoples lives are being devastated daily by this stuff.

I’m all for protecting our children from the true creeps of the world, but the current witch hunt has gone too far. The sad part is that the general public is completely ignorant of it. That’s why I started this site. I wanted people to know what was going on and know what can happen to them. To all of you, thanks for sharing your stories, it just helps build our case.

By: firemen

firemen — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 14:39:04 +0000

well its sad that these things seem to happen way to often and i am also a victim of being faulsly accussed. in my case my brothers x-wife married a local police oficer and i was a local firefighter in the same town. he began harrassing my brother so i stepped in and deffended my brother so he threatened me that that was a big mistake. See well my neice and his daughter became friends/stepsister and one day the came over my home to visit then within the next few days history was made..my life taken from me, i have lost everything and my case never had any evidence but my lawyer exsposing the DA, State police, Local Police and few other witnessess in lies. i was still convicted of simple A&B and not guilty of rape of a child. even so i got fired my paramedic cert taken away and 18m probation… this is a quick rundown of my case but it was a long 2 plus years. so i know what you who have been in my shoes feel but i also believe that something should be done to better control people of these faulse accusations the system needs to relook on how they deal with them and find a better way to tell the difrence between those who are truthful and those who are lying!!!!!!!!! because in either case there are no winners and this is serious!!!!!!

By: dad

dad — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 22:39:10 +0000

@Missing – That is terrible, but honestly I can’t say I blame him. I struggled with that greatly. I plead “no contest”, meaning that I wasn’t saying I did it, but was just saying I wasn’t going to fight it…even thought I did for more than 2 years.

I pray you and your son can regain yours a well.

Thanks so much to all of you for sharing your stories. I think it’s critical we make people aware of how destructive an devastating these charges can be. What’s scary is how easily they can be made, and how quickly our law enforcement acts due to public pressure.

By: Missing our son

Missing our son — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 22:16:29 +0000

I wish our son would of taken the plea. He was offered 11-18 months but refused to say he would ever hurt his child. He now serves 8-16 years fighting being in prison for something that never happened!!!
The stories are the same in one way or another. Our son was told not to speak as well but we did. We praised God that the mother had nothing to say. But we did and we informed the court of what a wonderful father, son, brother, uncle, nephew and friend Mike was. They still through the book at him. Now we fight and advocate and do what we can to bring attention to the public because there is nothing worse than a woman scorned! I truly pray you can regain your life to the best of your ability and that you somehow find peace. My heart hurts daily and will never go away!

By: WD

WD — Wed, 06 Jan 2010 18:32:21 +0000

Hi,
I went through basically the same thing only my plea was 3 years in prison and now i have to register for life under Megan’s law. I was accused by my daughters friend who had an axe to grind with my daughter. The family had good friends that are police officers in my town and also court officers, that just happened to be on duty in the court room during every court hearing., I’m back with my family 2 years now but unable to find a job. It truly is the worst crime to be committed of and there is no justice. Children are always believed and don’t have to testify in court, and there is no cross examination.

By: CBGirl

CBGirl — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 16:39:51 +0000

Thank you for letting us know what has happened. I am so sorry you had to take a plea but understand your dilemna.

It’s a sad world we live in where at every corner there is a chance of being accused of crimes.

I have kept you and your family in my prayers!!!

Love the new format!