Comments on: First meeting with my probation officer http://www.falselyaccuseddad.com/first-meeting-with-my-probation-officer/ The story of a Dad falsely accused of a horrible crime. Sun, 25 Jul 2010 23:55:57 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: sammie http://www.falselyaccuseddad.com/first-meeting-with-my-probation-officer/comment-page-1/#comment-343 sammie Tue, 29 Jun 2010 16:00:19 +0000 http://www.falselyaccuseddad.com/?p=347#comment-343 I have been charged with harrasement and now i have 18 months probation and anger classes, going to see the probation officer today for the first time, guessing i will take cash, this is all so out of wack, way out of scope of things. costly and as everyone as said ruins jobs and family over something so incorrect (accused). I hope this will work out in time I have been charged with harrasement and now i have 18 months probation and anger classes, going to see the probation officer today for the first time, guessing i will take cash, this is all so out of wack, way out of scope of things. costly and as everyone as said ruins jobs and family over something so incorrect (accused). I hope this will work out in time

]]> By: Dan http://www.falselyaccuseddad.com/first-meeting-with-my-probation-officer/comment-page-1/#comment-156 Dan Tue, 09 Feb 2010 15:33:02 +0000 http://www.falselyaccuseddad.com/?p=347#comment-156 Dad, My children's ages right now are 14 (step daughter), two boy's ages 5 and 3 and another daughter is 5 months old. I am active duty military which means that OSI has done their own full investigation and have found no reason to charge (they actually did an investigation, go figure?) but a "plea" would force their hand to discharge me anyway. After 17 years of honorable service (3 years from retirement) I just can't take that chance. I also have heard some numbers, like the conviction rate for these kind of cases is 84%. Doesn't that include "pleas"? But how accurate can those numbers be when 98% do plead out. What I would like to hear are some good numbers of how many acquittals occur when the falsely accused call their "bluff" and force them to trial? That would be an interesting study? Dad,
My children’s ages right now are 14 (step daughter), two boy’s ages 5 and 3 and another daughter is 5 months old. I am active duty military which means that OSI has done their own full investigation and have found no reason to charge (they actually did an investigation, go figure?) but a “plea” would force their hand to discharge me anyway. After 17 years of honorable service (3 years from retirement) I just can’t take that chance.
I also have heard some numbers, like the conviction rate for these kind of cases is 84%. Doesn’t that include “pleas”? But how accurate can those numbers be when 98% do plead out. What I would like to hear are some good numbers of how many acquittals occur when the falsely accused call their “bluff” and force them to trial? That would be an interesting study?

]]> By: dad http://www.falselyaccuseddad.com/first-meeting-with-my-probation-officer/comment-page-1/#comment-146 dad Mon, 08 Feb 2010 18:15:33 +0000 http://www.falselyaccuseddad.com/?p=347#comment-146 Increasing the charge is really common. They threatened me with the same. They were going to bump my charge to rape (digital penetration) if I didn't take the plea. Would they have? I don't know. No way it would have held, but just being charged with something like that would have completely ruined me and my family. No, prosecutors purgering themselves is not uncommon...I mean who are they going to believe? Same with police, they lie like there is no tomorrow. @Dan/Mike - I really respect both of you for sticking to your guns and "fighting the power". Just consider the others impacted by your decision and potential outcomes. I had to swallow a lot of pride. Dan, is proving the prosecutor wrong worth losing your daughter? Trust me, I know it's not right, it's not fair and it's not just. But it's the reality of our court system. Seem to recall reading that more than 98% of cases are settled out of court via plea bargains. That shocked me before, now I completely understand why. Increasing the charge is really common. They threatened me with the same. They were going to bump my charge to rape (digital penetration) if I didn’t take the plea. Would they have? I don’t know. No way it would have held, but just being charged with something like that would have completely ruined me and my family.

No, prosecutors purgering themselves is not uncommon…I mean who are they going to believe? Same with police, they lie like there is no tomorrow.

@Dan/Mike – I really respect both of you for sticking to your guns and “fighting the power”. Just consider the others impacted by your decision and potential outcomes. I had to swallow a lot of pride. Dan, is proving the prosecutor wrong worth losing your daughter? Trust me, I know it’s not right, it’s not fair and it’s not just. But it’s the reality of our court system. Seem to recall reading that more than 98% of cases are settled out of court via plea bargains. That shocked me before, now I completely understand why.

]]> By: Dan http://www.falselyaccuseddad.com/first-meeting-with-my-probation-officer/comment-page-1/#comment-145 Dan Mon, 08 Feb 2010 18:06:53 +0000 http://www.falselyaccuseddad.com/?p=347#comment-145 Mike, I know how you feel. I won't even discuss a plea deal. One, I could never give that worthless piece of trash the satisfaction and ANY type of plea deal would destroy me in my line of work. Not to mention the fact that the only way they could come close to putting on a case is if the investigator perjurs himself or the judge refuses to allow me to defend myself. From what I understand neither one of those is that far-fetched Let us know if you don't mind how things go. Mike,
I know how you feel. I won’t even discuss a plea deal. One, I could never give that worthless piece of trash the satisfaction and ANY type of plea deal would destroy me in my line of work. Not to mention the fact that the only way they could come close to putting on a case is if the investigator perjurs himself or the judge refuses to allow me to defend myself. From what I understand neither one of those is that far-fetched Let us know if you don’t mind how things go.

]]> By: Mike http://www.falselyaccuseddad.com/first-meeting-with-my-probation-officer/comment-page-1/#comment-144 Mike Sun, 07 Feb 2010 03:41:49 +0000 http://www.falselyaccuseddad.com/?p=347#comment-144 I am going to trial this week, turned down 2 "deals", passed a polygraph and now the Prosecution has INCREASED the charge! It has been a year this month. Had to quit my job in the fire service and a destroyed relationship. I am confident that the jury will see the light. I couldn't give into the scare tactics and agenda of a prosecutor trying to get another "win" and take a deal for something I didn't do. If for some reason it doesn't go my way, I will lose my daughter that I have had custody of since before the allegation from her half sister. I am going to trial this week, turned down 2 “deals”, passed a polygraph and now the Prosecution has INCREASED the charge! It has been a year this month. Had to quit my job in the fire service and a destroyed relationship. I am confident that the jury will see the light. I couldn’t give into the scare tactics and agenda of a prosecutor trying to get another “win” and take a deal for something I didn’t do. If for some reason it doesn’t go my way, I will lose my daughter that I have had custody of since before the allegation from her half sister.

]]> By: dad http://www.falselyaccuseddad.com/first-meeting-with-my-probation-officer/comment-page-1/#comment-142 dad Fri, 05 Feb 2010 03:09:56 +0000 http://www.falselyaccuseddad.com/?p=347#comment-142 Dan, I didn't plead guilty, I plead "no contest" which basically means I'm not saying I did it, but I'm not going to fight it any further. If I had to plead guilty, I wouldn't have agreed. Trust me, it was a very long struggle but really boiled down to whether or not I was willing to risk my families future on my own need to "prove" to everyone I wasn't guilty. My family believed me, and the only people I was trying to prove my innocence to where the same "friends" that had all pretty much turned their backs on us anyway. I also have a son with type 1 diabetes that requires a significant amount of medical care and medicine on a monthly basis. Had I went to court and lost (50/50 chance), I'd have gone to jail, lost my job and hence all my medical benefits, which are very very good. Another factor that played into this was that going to trial would have cost me another 20-30k on top of the 20-30k I had already dished out. I was pretty much broke as it was. I didn't have another 20-30k. I didn't like it and still don't like it, but I "took one" for my family. 18 months later, it was the right decision. My older kids understand and were part of the decision process. My younger kids don't really know and frankly I'm not sure they need to at this point. It really boiled down to a gamble of going to court and possibly facing a guilty charge of a class C felony (real serious) vs. a plea to a misdemeanor which I can most likely get expunged. Remember when an adult faces a child in court, especially a young child, the jury generally sides for the child. Court statistics show that. There is a lady that comments on here. Here son went to court, as he believed in the system. He wanted to prove to everyone that he wasn't guilty. He passed up a plea offer. He was found guilty and is now in jail with a felony conviction and gets to spend most likely the rest of his life on the sex offender list. The system failed him, as it fails many. Unfortunately, it's a game that can have life long consequences if you make the wrong decision or the "dice" don't roll in your favor. My worst fear was sitting in the court room, and have a guilty verdict thrown at me. What would have been my first thought? "I should have taken that plea bargain". I didn't want to be in that position. Dan, I didn’t plead guilty, I plead “no contest” which basically means I’m not saying I did it, but I’m not going to fight it any further. If I had to plead guilty, I wouldn’t have agreed.

Trust me, it was a very long struggle but really boiled down to whether or not I was willing to risk my families future on my own need to “prove” to everyone I wasn’t guilty. My family believed me, and the only people I was trying to prove my innocence to where the same “friends” that had all pretty much turned their backs on us anyway. I also have a son with type 1 diabetes that requires a significant amount of medical care and medicine on a monthly basis. Had I went to court and lost (50/50 chance), I’d have gone to jail, lost my job and hence all my medical benefits, which are very very good. Another factor that played into this was that going to trial would have cost me another 20-30k on top of the 20-30k I had already dished out. I was pretty much broke as it was. I didn’t have another 20-30k.

I didn’t like it and still don’t like it, but I “took one” for my family. 18 months later, it was the right decision. My older kids understand and were part of the decision process. My younger kids don’t really know and frankly I’m not sure they need to at this point.

It really boiled down to a gamble of going to court and possibly facing a guilty charge of a class C felony (real serious) vs. a plea to a misdemeanor which I can most likely get expunged. Remember when an adult faces a child in court, especially a young child, the jury generally sides for the child. Court statistics show that.

There is a lady that comments on here. Here son went to court, as he believed in the system. He wanted to prove to everyone that he wasn’t guilty. He passed up a plea offer. He was found guilty and is now in jail with a felony conviction and gets to spend most likely the rest of his life on the sex offender list. The system failed him, as it fails many.

Unfortunately, it’s a game that can have life long consequences if you make the wrong decision or the “dice” don’t roll in your favor. My worst fear was sitting in the court room, and have a guilty verdict thrown at me. What would have been my first thought? “I should have taken that plea bargain”. I didn’t want to be in that position.

]]> By: Dan http://www.falselyaccuseddad.com/first-meeting-with-my-probation-officer/comment-page-1/#comment-141 Dan Fri, 05 Feb 2010 02:47:46 +0000 http://www.falselyaccuseddad.com/?p=347#comment-141 Dad, I pray for you and your family but struggle with your decision to "plead". i too have been falsely accused. I married a beautiful woman who has had 2 girls from 2 earlier marriages. We have had custody of her eldest whom I've been raising for over 7 years and we have had 3 children of our own. I am active duty military and have recently been stationed for the first time close to where her estranged daughter from her second marriage could spend the summer with us.After spending the summer with us the estranged daughter (with the help of her illegal alien, who has felony charges of larceny, father) has accused me of "trying to touch her underwear". Despite the fact that I had a son from my first marriage who was born with severe disabilities that I raised mostly as a single parent until his death at the age of 11, two ex-wives that are willing to testify to my integrity, 17 years of honorable service to my country, and the support of my current wife, my loving 14 year old step-daughter (who was used as a pawn in the middle of all this because they claimed she was being abused despite her unequivocal denial) they still have pressed charges for "attempt to sexually abuse". Not a single shred of evidence leans to an I-O-T-A of guilt yet my family is still going through a tremendous amount of pain. I understand your desire to :plead: to lessen the pain and am fully aware of the consequence of not "playing the game" but I can never reconcile the idea of explaining to my children how I could admit to something I didn't do. My prayers are with you and your beautiful family. My case goes to a jury trial in May 2010. Hopefully I can give you some good news and i plan on "documenting" my experience too. Dad,
I pray for you and your family but struggle with your decision to “plead”. i too have been falsely accused. I married a beautiful woman who has had 2 girls from 2 earlier marriages. We have had custody of her eldest whom I’ve been raising for over 7 years and we have had 3 children of our own. I am active duty military and have recently been stationed for the first time close to where her estranged daughter from her second marriage could spend the summer with us.After spending the summer with us the estranged daughter (with the help of her illegal alien, who has felony charges of larceny, father) has accused me of “trying to touch her underwear”. Despite the fact that I had a son from my first marriage who was born with severe disabilities that I raised mostly as a single parent until his death at the age of 11, two ex-wives that are willing to testify to my integrity, 17 years of honorable service to my country, and the support of my current wife, my loving 14 year old step-daughter (who was used as a pawn in the middle of all this because they claimed she was being abused despite her unequivocal denial) they still have pressed charges for “attempt to sexually abuse”. Not a single shred of evidence leans to an I-O-T-A of guilt yet my family is still going through a tremendous amount of pain.
I understand your desire to :plead: to lessen the pain and am fully aware of the consequence of not “playing the game” but I can never reconcile the idea of explaining to my children how I could admit to something I didn’t do.
My prayers are with you and your beautiful family. My case goes to a jury trial in May 2010. Hopefully I can give you some good news and i plan on “documenting” my experience too.

]]> By: Missing our son http://www.falselyaccuseddad.com/first-meeting-with-my-probation-officer/comment-page-1/#comment-129 Missing our son Fri, 22 Jan 2010 20:06:12 +0000 http://www.falselyaccuseddad.com/?p=347#comment-129 Does it EVER end???? This is preposterous!!!! The country has NO idea how horribly these types of allegations ruin every single aspect of your life for eternity! It doesn't even end if you are vindicated. You then have to pay thousands upon thousands more to have your record expunged, then you have to fight to have your name removed from the registry, all in the name of justice???? 1 little mistake, forget to make a payment on time, forget to do 1 little thing and your STILL thrown in jail for something you did not do. And this is the LAND OF THE FREE?????? Does it EVER end???? This is preposterous!!!! The country has NO idea how horribly these types of allegations ruin every single aspect of your life for eternity! It doesn’t even end if you are vindicated. You then have to pay thousands upon thousands more to have your record expunged, then you have to fight to have your name removed from the registry, all in the name of justice???? 1 little mistake, forget to make a payment on time, forget to do 1 little thing and your STILL thrown in jail for something you did not do. And this is the LAND OF THE FREE??????

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