Someone posted a link to my mugshot in on online Yahoo forum. My picture and information are located on the local county Sheriff’s website. The forum members consisted of members from our prior parenting forum along with many new members. Addison’s mother was removed from the Yahoo forum right after the picture was posted, as the moderators felt she had something to do with the posting. After she was removed, she posted the following message on another mother’s site:
Just wanted to let everyone know that I was deactivated from the other site [The Yahoo Group] because someone thought I had something to do with the post. Not that I really care I wish it was me that did it and I’m really glad that someone had the nerve to do it themselves.
Don’t you find it a little odd that even though he [Falsely Accused Dad] is denying what he has done he took down his website and hasn’t returned to the new one? That no one has told you WHY the site shut down and that he was arrested? That his family is losing their Health benefits (hmmm maybe that means he was FIRED) That the subject is danced around and no one has told you all anything about what is going on? Hmmm, yeah sounds like an innocent man to me.
I’m sorry but little kids don’t come up with this stuff. I ant believe that someone would call a CHILD a LIAR for something like this. I cant believe a MOTHER would support this person. I cant believe that someone would wish Bad Karma on a child that was Violated in such a way. I just pray to god that he doesn’t hurt someone else.
My deactivation is for the best because I sure don’t want ANYONE to think that I support this man in ANY way and I don’t want to be associated with anyone that would.
Maybe everyone should re direct there thoughts and prayers to the child that has been violated and pray that this victim doesn’t have to be scared and that this victim and the victims family will e able to heal from all of this.
At the time, my wife nor I replied to this posting. But now that the case is over, I want to. The only reason I didn’t before was due to my attorney being very clear about me not discussing the case with anyone. He told me in no uncertain terms that if I did, he wouldn’t represent me. Here are my responses to her questions:
Don’t you find it a little odd that even though he [Falsely Accused Dad] is denying what he has done he took down his website and hasn’t returned to the new one?
Why should anyone find it odd? I took down the website solely based on the advice of my attorney. I didn’t want to, but him and a second attorney both felt it was a good idea. I didn’t return to the new one for the exact reason above, why would I want to return to a forum or group that contained the very people that falsely accused me?? To reference scripture, I separated myself as far as the east is from the west.
That no one has told you WHY the site shut down and that he was arrested?
See above on why I shut the site down, and why in the world would I advertise to anyone that I was arrested? It was the most humiliating event in my life, why in the world would I go out into an internet forum and advertise this.
That his family is losing their Health benefits (hmmm maybe that means he was FIRED) That the subject is danced around and no one has told you all anything about what is going on?
We were afraid of losing our health benefits and my job due to the fact the charge was a felony charge. We weren’t sure how my company would react. Fortunately, they (unlike most of America) believe a person is innocent until proven guilty. I was put on leave until my company consulted with their legal and risk teams, but was allowed to return to work and was paid for the time I missed. So no, I was never fired and I’m still employed their today and actually have been promoted since.
Again, the subject is “danced” around because I was in a legal battle for my life. If you’ve never been in a situation like mine, you would never understand.
I’m sorry but little kids don’t come up with this stuff. I ant believe that someone would call a CHILD a LIAR for something like this. I cant believe a MOTHER would support this person. I cant believe that someone would wish Bad Karma on a child that was Violated in such a way. I just pray to god that he doesn’t hurt someone else.
This statement just shows how naive many adults are about kids and offenses like this. At no time did we ever imply this child was lying. I would agree that in most cases children don’t come up with this kind of stuff, but are coerced and taught by adults. We never called the little girl a liar but believed strongly that her parents coerced her to say the things she said. If you had seen how inconsistent the child’s interview was with the Child Advocacy Center you would understand. Also, seeing that the father hid the accusation until the next morning nor accompanied his daughter to the Child Advocacy Center, my guess is that it was him. Having his daughter point the finger at me was a good way out of a tough problem.
The Mother (my wife) supported me because she was aware of all the detail behind the case that you weren’t. All you heard was the accusation, you didn’t see the mother’s statement, nor read the medical report…both of which contained blatant lies about me and a severe lack of any evidence. My wife also knows me, and knows I would never do anything like this.
Maybe everyone should re direct there thoughts and prayers to the child that has been violated and pray that this victim doesn’t have to be scared and that this victim and the victims family will be able to heal from all of this.
Maybe we did, and just maybe I prayed for Evonne (the little girl that accused me) nightly, praying that she would tell the truth and praying that the police would figure out the truth. Praying that she wasn’t being continually abused. Sadly, the police focused on the easiest target….me. Which means of course that if Evonne was being abused by someone, they are still out there and still praying on possibly her and other children.
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I am posting this anonymously, because most people in my life don’t know what happened to us last year. We actually had another family accuse my 13 year old son of doing some terrible things to their children. Your case and his case sound so incredibly similar in nature. It just sickens me to know that people are so ignorant that they don’t know what children are capable of. Most children can be manipulated quite easily into saying what you want them to say. At the end of our ordeal, my son of course was free and clear and we had the ability to go back and sue the family. I chose not to, simply because I don’t care about them – they have nothing I want. This was a friend of mine and she is a sick woman.
Oh, and all the testimony, much like yours – changed each and every time the children were questioned. First we have the mothers report which tells one story, then we have the childrens statement taken by the police, a different story to the Child Advocacy Center, a different story to MY lawyer in the depositions, a different story to the judge before the court case. In the outcome he was freed WITH prejudice which means she cannot come back. The judge knew. WAY too much inconsistency and they were ordered to attend counseling sessions as as family at the Child Advocacy Center and they never go. Always an excuse not to go. If you truly thought your children were abused or weren’t worry about your children disclosing the truth, you would be attending.
I have wanted to comment several times when I have visited your blog. Today I did, and I’m glad.
I’m so sorry you all went through this. So sorry. My son’s life was destroyed for a year and he learned things he should have NEVER known at that age. While i’m sure you learned nothing new, I’m sure that you spent a LONG period feeling completely alienated and ostracized. I’m so sorry. I’m not leaving my email address, but feel free to leave me a response on your blog in the comments. I’ll find it. Take care and I’m so sorry for your family.
Such idiots to not realize how easily a child can lie. *sigh* The worst part is they don’t always know they are doing it. They are manipulated into believing it.
Wow, I can’t imagine having to deal with something like that with your son! Don’t worry about being anonymous, I fully understand. Thank you so much for sharing your story so that others can benefit! The more we talk about what’s going on in our lives, the more other people will being to be aware of the TRUTH!
Thanks and stay in touch!
I thought of something the other day after I left you a comment. If you haven’t heard about it or read about it already, my attorney offered me the following book. It is certainly food for thought and speaks VOLUMES about both of our cases.
Ceci, S. J. & Bruck, M. [1995]. Jeopardy in the courtroom: The scientific analysis of children’s testimony. Washington, D.C.: American Psychological Association. (Winner of the 2000 William James Book Award by APA)
It is an amazing book and I read it cover to cover in only about a week (I was really trying to understand everything). The book will tell you think you never saw coming about how easily manipulated children are into actually believing something happened to them even if they don’t remember it.
Let me know if you pick it up.
This is a terrible thing that happened to you.
I’m not saying that this is what happened but, some years ago, my father in law was in a very similar situation.
Turns out the mother of the little girl he was accused of violating had a form of Munchausen syndrom by proxy and had convinced her little girl that this happened. And when I say convinced, what I mean is she basically drilled this into her head night and day. She punished her if she denied it. Took away her toys, threatened her with causing her puppy harm…and it goes on with a long list of other sickening actions.
It’s things like this that make fathers afraid to even be affectionate with their daughters…and I find that incredibly sad that we as a society are so hell bent on pointed the finger and accusing each other of evil that we have to be afraid to have any sort of closeness with our children.
Stay strong in knowing that you DID NOT commit such in act. Please don’t blame yourself. It could have happened to anyone. From what I just read, you’re a very intelligent articulate person, and I believe anyone reading your story would surely ascertain that you are completely and unequivocably innocent.
God bless you and your family. I sincerely hope that peace will follow you now on the road to recovery from such a horrible, malicious thing.
my friend is going through the very exact thing party friends over girl stayed the night mom accussing of my friend of fondaling her mom was drunk took afew days for anything to come about it now he is in jail and family doesn’t have the connection or money and they want to send him away for 25years to life he has a wife and three boys and we all know there is noway possible that he could of done such a thing same story as yours what do we need to do please contact asap
Dad, Thank you for your story I can not disscuss my case much as I am in the same nightmare that you were but this is from my wife and I divorceing and this came up after she wanted alot of money each month for our daughter and I still had my son. Any advice that you can give please do.
Hi just last Month my X Husband was accused of Molesting a 12 year old No evidence ,No DNA ,No prior records, No expert witness, this happened 10 years ago just here say and she even said she lied about the story changed all the time. The jury still put him away to jail 45 years Pro ball player the girls was upset for years because he was Dating her mom and got upset that she left her husband…then the prosicuters encouraged them to lie….It’s so scary out there please look at the website the media and attorney’s made for him that know He was wrongly accussed If your an applette attorney and would like to help please contact them the website people and Help please….www.melhalljr.com please take a look and see it could happen to Anyone! May God Bless you All……
I never ever thought that I would be in the beginnings of a situation similar to yours. It has been implied that my husband touch my grandson inappropriately. My grandson has lived with me since the day he was born. My husband and myself have been his only primary care givers. The father is jealous of the relationship (father/son) between my husband and my grandson. He just decided that he wanted to be a father in the past two weeks, and is implying that my husband “touched” my grandson inappropriately in front of my daughter, myself and him. I would never ever allow anyone to ever touch any child, as I have been through this myself (never said a word everyone worshipped the person that did it, he could do no wrong), my grandson loves his grandfather very much, shows no signs of abuse or being afraid of my husband, absolute reverse he wants his grandfather whenever he feels frightened or scared, as well as my self. he wants nothing to do wih his parents. What are we to do, we need help. At this point it has gone no further than implying. Help
Hi Erin. Very sorry to hear about your situation! Since the police haven’t been involved, your situation is a little different. I guess first things first I would have a very serious talk with your son. I would also strongly advise going ahead and getting a lawyer…or at least paying for a counseling session with one. Look for one that has a previous track record on dealing with these types of cases. I’m sure a lawyer could at least advise you on what to do at this point. Keep us posted on how things turn out, and I’ll keep you and your family in my prayers. I hope and pray it goes no further. Also, go ahead and read this article I wrote so that your prepared: http://www.falselyaccuseddad.com/falsely-accused-of-child-molestation/
My step-daughter is 4 and for those 4 years her mother has been accusing my husband of sexual abuse and physical abuse. We have been fighting in court and through DCFS all this time and when asking if there is anything we can do to get her to stop the answer has been no. Its only getting worse. Now she is 4 and able to say the things her mom is wanting her to say. When she is at our house she is such a beautiful, happy go lucky child but we’re starting to see the affects. Back in court again cause now the daughter is saying things openly and randomly to anyone usually when prodded by mom or her 9 year old sister (from another father). The charges were yet again dismissed like they always had been but we’re so scared now that these horrible things are coming out her mouth! Not only that, she is now saying my husband is abusing our own daughter and that i witness all of this. After this latest dismisal i just don’t feel satisfied. We want to go for full custody so bad but its a risk and its so expensive. i’m sure we’ll go in that direction but its going to be very tough to get there. I just want to see there are other people out there having the same problems? Even though the courts and dcfs have dismissed her many complaints over the years i just still feel the worst is yet to come. How do you try to explain to a 4 year old that accusing people of things like that if they are not true is really bad? we don’t get her long enough to have our own counselor for her, would it be worse for us to force her mother to keep her in counseling? If she continues to say those things i’m thinking a counseler could be our worst enemy. Thank God we have a great lawyer but we still just feel so damaged and don’t know where to turn for support. years of fighting has thrown us into bankruptcy and with two great jobs we should not be in this situation. Thanks for listening, just needed to feel we weren’t alone. Any suggestions would be appreciated.
My husband has just been accused of much the same, after having a fight with his ex-wife. The girl is 11 and made accusations after 3 hours of questioning. We are awaiting a DNA test as she has apparently had sex with someone. Her’s is a very disturbed home and Lisa’s story reminds me alot of the same things we’ve gone through over the past 7 years with the ex-wife. Tomorrow my husband is due in court, DCF has filed an injunction against him, and he is finally to receive all the paperwork and allegations. I’m afraid they’ll arrest him at that time though the police have not taken a statement from him yet.
Thanks for sharing your stories. I know we aren’t alone but it sure is a scary place to be and with his family turning against him, we feel very much alone.
Your story sounds almost like a recording of what I am presently enduring. I have been accused of touching my step daughter. Actually the charges are Aggravated Sexual Assault of a Child under 14. She has told over 7 different stories. No physical evidence whatsoever was found. She has even told stories to medical professionals and then said she never said these things to the medical personnel. Clearly, to any normal person, you can see that she is lying. She is a very strong willed child who did not get her way and is using this as a way to get her payback. I have treated this child as if she was my own from a very young age. Her real father had no interest in her at all and didn’t even pay child support. He actually filed bankruptcy thinking it would erase all the child support that he owed which is in the thousands. Unfortunately she is constantly coached by people that are around her that thrive on drama and the pain of others and are in no way concerned with her mental health. But like your accusers, they all believe a child could never make a story like this up. We even have phone recordings and letters where she admits nothing ever happened and they still continue to push the case. Just had my first trial which ended in a hung jury. Seems someone believes a child can tell lies like this. DA won’t give it up because he needs that notch in his belt. You know how elected positions are and voting is getting near. Looking at my second trial coming up and hoping God blesses me with a set of jurors that can look at all the lack of evidence and lies and find me to be what I truly am and that is innocent. It scares me to know, and should scare every other male, that their entire life can be changed by a few words of a child without the least bit of evidence. In the words of a supervisor with CPS, as far as I am concerned you are guilty. So, you are guilty until you can prove yourself innocent. Hmmm, sounds backwards doesn’t it???
Talking over this all with my husband. He had to stop reading your story, as it fueled his fire towards our judicial system, which we have never had good faith in to begin with.
We discussed how it would be nice to try to get a bill passed – where if someone knowingly falsely accuses someone of a crime like this, and are found guilty themselves of false accusations, they serve no less than 5 years in prison. Wouldn’t that be nice?!
It sure would help to stray people from doing it. Ticks me off they get to go on with their lives and their are no repercussions from it on their side.
Dana, I think that is an awesome idea. I was reading the other day about a family that has gone through horrible idea just because they took a few pics of their kids playing in the bathtub! While I am 100% in favor or protecting our children, the pendulum has swung way too far. Innocent people (and their children) are being hurt beyond repair daily through false allegations. My kids will never recover from me not being home for more than a year. We constantly see the results of the emotional scars they carry.
I was accused of sexual assualt on my 10 yearold daughter, Two days later my wife moved in with another man, I am spent 21 days in jail. I am going tomm. for a polygraph, to think my wife of 4 years would use my step daughter to get me out of her life is as low as they come. i feel for you. I hope everything works out for me. My life is ruined and no one the town looks at me the same i do have friends that are backing me up and have known me for years. They know I would not do something like this and so does the LORD, so when we are standing at the gates of heaven I hope i am right behind her. Good Luck>
Paul,
You need to know that Karma exists, even if the judicial system fails you or the innocent people. Remember, It will be in the minds of the prosecutors trying to make that buck. When they get old and gray, they will not be able to sleep because they have that guilty conscience bothering them. Oh by the way, the straying wife will be so guilty that she will have to totally shower daily to try to clean herself off. I am going to say this. Karma will strike when least expected. I am saying this, “What goes around, Comes back around to bite them in the back side”. I have seen this and do not wish this on anyone. remember this, hold your head up and keep your nose above water. You will make it to the end. Jesus Blesses you always, If you do not have a friend on earth, You have a friend in Heaven. He will fill the void. All you have to do is ask, he will give.
Peace brother, Peace.
My stepdaughter who has been living with her father for just over 18 months, through her friend has accused me of molestation.
CAS (CPS) has interviewed all of our 5 children (3 are mine) and no other corroboration has happened, yet I have been arrested, and have had a bail hearing where my wife became my surety. I can’t go to pools, schools, parks, and can’t be out between 8pm, and 6am without my surety.
My stepdaughter has been very unhappy at her Dad’s as he has become a neglectful, allcoholic, who takes no interest in her. (As it turns out the CAS was called on him just a few months ago, and during this process my step daughter and step son have both been identified as embellishing the situation at their dad’s home) My stepdaughter, and I have had several problems over discipline and respect, as well she hates the idea of living at our rural home, as she feels stranded. My wife was considering ending our relationship, and moving to a new house near the community of my stepdaughters boyfriend (she is involved in a long distance relationship) When my wife reconsidered, my stepdaughter became increasingly irrational and emotional.
My three kids are all acting out. My son is very upset. He is turning 11 in just over a week, and is heartbroken, that I am having to leave our home. I have homeschooled for 5 years now, and have been my childrens primary care giver for a long time.
I feel anger, sadness, desperation, confusion, can’t believe this is happening, can’t afford a lawyer, and our legal aid system is on a work to rule compaign……..
Please folks pray for my family. My sons anguish is heart wrenching.
No proof, no evidence, just an allegation made at a time when there is so much evidence to show why she is lieing. She also recently began birth control, and even counsellors with victims assistance have pointed out how much danger there could be in taking this medication without the proper monitoring, and education.
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Wayne, your story sounds all too familiar. I can truly feel for your situation. It’s going to be a long road, but hang in there. I know you say you can’t afford a lawyer, but I’d suggest doing everything you possibly can to get one and a good one. This might mean mortgaging the house, taking out retirement money, getting a loan, borrowing from friends/family, whatever it takes. Your life as you know it is literally on the line and you need to do everything you can to fight this.
Definitely will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. If you have any questions or want to talk about any details on my case, just drop me a line: http://www.falselyaccuseddad.com/contact/
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Just picked up your site tonight. Great advice to Wayne. Thanks for putting a link to my site at IWantMyDad.com, I appreciate it. Did you get a chance to read the deposition on my site of the Dr. my x hired to file the molesting charges? I need a sane mind to read it and give me some feedback. Anyone?