Comments on: My mugshot online

By: candi

candi — Wed, 16 Jun 2010 20:51:31 +0000

hello i found this site because my daughter accussed her stepfather of molesting her,i believe with all my heart that he did. he has not been convicted yet. i was looking for avenues to help her to help us as a family. i can’t believe anyone would make any of this stuff up! how horrible that someone should choose this for thier child for their family. To put a child thru all the things that come along with such allegations is shocking to me just to get back at an ex or the countless other explanations i’ve read here today. i feel for your families and the children that they must endure such things and what might now lay ahead of them do to false statements. i hope that the truth is seen in all your cases and I hope some day the innocent names are cleared in some way. However For me, my girls,our family must hold onto the fact that the guilty does have to pay for their actions in order to protect the children.please try to remember that a lot of children do suffer at the hands of a molester and the damage does last a life time. i want you to no that i’m convienced that even though our cases are differently the same there is laws that can be changed to benefit and protect us all including the children. A parent that intentionally puts this in a childs head has some serious issues and should be brought up on charges for child abuse themselfs. (try to remember their maybe some way to clear your name). My girls protection is now my focus but soon changing laws will be my next focus. i wish all of you the best, i hope you wish the same for us. thank you and good luck

By: Nick

Nick — Fri, 21 May 2010 06:27:26 +0000

So, i grew up thinking my dad molested me. I remember lying face down on a table and having a doctor check my butt for evidence. I remember watching lady use dolls to talk about what “might” have happened. I also remember a doctor describing all the things that could have happened since I didn’t remember what happened. I even remember saying it did happen, I didn’t remember a thing happening, it just seems like it did for some reason. Years later i asked my mom for evidence and found out that it was pretty shotty stuff. I am now married with 3 kids and when I found out he was wrongly accused, I decided I would not be around any kids alone EVER to ensure I didn’t get the same thing as my dad. I also, decided to not allow my kids to be babysat around any male. Well my wife convinced me this was crazy. She said under no circumstances woudl she ever believe i could do anything.

Fast forward to a couple days ago. While getting a bath from my mother-in-law, my daughter supposedly said that i put my private parts in her private parts. When i was told I was broken. She has some autism like issues and if something happened to her it would add to the issues. What i did know is that I didn’t do it. I’m careful to rarely even give her a bath. But, the questions have come, about did i look at porn in front of her, did I do something she could have thought, and basically, did i do it. My wife said she woudl be cautious about everyone, even me. I’m not sure what to do, but i feel as though i’m going to lose my family.

By: Amy

Amy — Fri, 07 May 2010 16:17:41 +0000

I just came across this website because I have been searching for what I can do next. My husband and I are both divorced. I have two children and he has one. We had recently had to inform his ex-wife that she will be going to court because she still has yet to take my husbands name off of the mortgage and home equity loan in her house that they had once shared. His ex-wife is even re-married to a detective. It has been 2 years and now we cant get a mortgage because of her. The following week I was contacted by a social worker from child advocacy as well as a detective that a report was filed that my 12 year old son was sexually abusing my 9 year old daughter. The same day a police officer showed up to serve my husband an order of protection to stay away from his son. His ex and us live in two different counties. The order of protection from one and the other allegations in the other. The order of protection is different from the other allegations because it states that my 12 year old son is sexually abusing both my husbands son and my daughter and that my husband knew about it and then in turn told his son not to tell anyone. There are a lot of inconsistencies in the allegations which are being proven that no sexual acts ever occured but in the mean time my son had to move out and I am a mess inside waiting for the court date for the order of protection to come as well as an “un-founded” letter from Social services for both of us. I want to know if there is anything I can do for her lying about the abuse…the detective already informed me that all children deny it…so what gives his ex-wife the power to lie and not have any consequences???????????????? She has really screwed up many lives and she is probably sitting on her end talking crap about my son as if she is a victim herself! I think his ex-wife needs to be evaluated!!! What can I do?????

By: Mother torn in two

Mother torn in two — Wed, 07 Apr 2010 14:24:40 +0000

I have just been reading these posts and am taken aback by how many of us there are out there. My 13 year old daughter has made allegations against my husband, her stepdad. We have been married for 12 years and he considers her his own. The charges were finally dropped a few months ago thanks to my daughter refusing to testify. They subpoenaed her to grand jury three times. Once the criminal charges were dropped my daughter for some reason thought that her stepdad would just beable to come back home and we could all just pretend that nothing happened. When the reality hit that due to CPS my husband still could not come home she had an emotional breakdown and ended up in a psychological hospital. She is begging to see him (it’s been over six months) but we have yet to get permission. She has run away from home twice causing me to have to call the police to find her, been in two crisis beds, and is now cutting. The psychologist she is seeing tells me that she will probably never tell the truth at this point, and we have theories of why this lie was told in the first place. We know she was molested before. There is a ton of evidence to disprove her claims, the whole thing is just heartbreaking. Not to mention I have two other children. My son is living at his dad’s (he was allowed to) and my other daughter is home with me. We were such a close family, the separation has been devestating to all three children. I don’t know how we will ever repaire this.

By: Hurting Dad

Hurting Dad — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 04:23:58 +0000

dad
Just picked up your site tonight. Great advice to Wayne. Thanks for putting a link to my site at IWantMyDad.com, I appreciate it. Did you get a chance to read the deposition on my site of the Dr. my x hired to file the molesting charges? I need a sane mind to read it and give me some feedback. Anyone?

By: dad

dad — Tue, 05 Jan 2010 10:42:38 +0000

Wayne, your story sounds all too familiar. I can truly feel for your situation. It’s going to be a long road, but hang in there. I know you say you can’t afford a lawyer, but I’d suggest doing everything you possibly can to get one and a good one. This might mean mortgaging the house, taking out retirement money, getting a loan, borrowing from friends/family, whatever it takes. Your life as you know it is literally on the line and you need to do everything you can to fight this.

Definitely will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. If you have any questions or want to talk about any details on my case, just drop me a line: http://www.falselyaccuseddad.com/contact/

By: Wayne

Wayne — Tue, 05 Jan 2010 04:56:02 +0000

My stepdaughter who has been living with her father for just over 18 months, through her friend has accused me of molestation.

CAS (CPS) has interviewed all of our 5 children (3 are mine) and no other corroboration has happened, yet I have been arrested, and have had a bail hearing where my wife became my surety. I can’t go to pools, schools, parks, and can’t be out between 8pm, and 6am without my surety.

My stepdaughter has been very unhappy at her Dad’s as he has become a neglectful, allcoholic, who takes no interest in her. (As it turns out the CAS was called on him just a few months ago, and during this process my step daughter and step son have both been identified as embellishing the situation at their dad’s home) My stepdaughter, and I have had several problems over discipline and respect, as well she hates the idea of living at our rural home, as she feels stranded. My wife was considering ending our relationship, and moving to a new house near the community of my stepdaughters boyfriend (she is involved in a long distance relationship) When my wife reconsidered, my stepdaughter became increasingly irrational and emotional.

My three kids are all acting out. My son is very upset. He is turning 11 in just over a week, and is heartbroken, that I am having to leave our home. I have homeschooled for 5 years now, and have been my childrens primary care giver for a long time.

I feel anger, sadness, desperation, confusion, can’t believe this is happening, can’t afford a lawyer, and our legal aid system is on a work to rule compaign……..

Please folks pray for my family. My sons anguish is heart wrenching.

No proof, no evidence, just an allegation made at a time when there is so much evidence to show why she is lieing. She also recently began birth control, and even counsellors with victims assistance have pointed out how much danger there could be in taking this medication without the proper monitoring, and education.

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

By: Phill

Phill — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 00:49:01 +0000

Paul,

You need to know that Karma exists, even if the judicial system fails you or the innocent people. Remember, It will be in the minds of the prosecutors trying to make that buck. When they get old and gray, they will not be able to sleep because they have that guilty conscience bothering them. Oh by the way, the straying wife will be so guilty that she will have to totally shower daily to try to clean herself off. I am going to say this. Karma will strike when least expected. I am saying this, “What goes around, Comes back around to bite them in the back side”. I have seen this and do not wish this on anyone. remember this, hold your head up and keep your nose above water. You will make it to the end. Jesus Blesses you always, If you do not have a friend on earth, You have a friend in Heaven. He will fill the void. All you have to do is ask, he will give.

Peace brother, Peace.

By: Paul

Paul — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 06:55:02 +0000

I was accused of sexual assualt on my 10 yearold daughter, Two days later my wife moved in with another man, I am spent 21 days in jail. I am going tomm. for a polygraph, to think my wife of 4 years would use my step daughter to get me out of her life is as low as they come. i feel for you. I hope everything works out for me. My life is ruined and no one the town looks at me the same i do have friends that are backing me up and have known me for years. They know I would not do something like this and so does the LORD, so when we are standing at the gates of heaven I hope i am right behind her. Good Luck>

By: dad

dad — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 12:42:51 +0000

Dana, I think that is an awesome idea. I was reading the other day about a family that has gone through horrible idea just because they took a few pics of their kids playing in the bathtub! While I am 100% in favor or protecting our children, the pendulum has swung way too far. Innocent people (and their children) are being hurt beyond repair daily through false allegations. My kids will never recover from me not being home for more than a year. We constantly see the results of the emotional scars they carry.